What Are Your Values? Video
Video Transcript
Find out how to identify your values, in this short video.
Your values are what you consider to be most important, in work and in life.
When your behavior aligns with your values, you'll likely feel content and satisfied. But, when they don't, things can feel, well, wrong, and this can be a source of deep unhappiness.
Knowing and understanding your values helps you to make decisions about how you live your life, so you can live it with integrity, knowing that the choices you made are the right ones for you. But, how can you figure out what values are most meaningful to you?
Start by taking a look back on your life. Think about the times when you were most happy. What were you doing? What was it that made you so happy? Then think about your proudest moments. Did others share your pride? What else contributed to this feeling?
Next, reflect on times that you felt fulfilled and satisfied. Consider what need or desire of yours was being met at the time. How and why did this give your life meaning?
Now, determine your most important values based on the moments you've just reflected on. Why was each experience memorable? What principles did they represent? Note down 10 or so values, and look for any similarities. For instance, if you identify both honesty and openness, you could combine these into one core value of authenticity.
Once you've identified your most important values, prioritize the ones that best define you. This can be tricky to do, so take your time. It can be helpful to compare two values on your list, and visualize a situation where you'd have to choose between them. If you had to choose just one, which would it be?
Finally, look at the key values you've picked out. Do they feel right, and make you feel good about yourself? Would you feel proud and comfortable to share them with someone that you admire? Do you stand by them, even if they're unpopular choices?
Living by your values will help you to lead a more honest and meaningful life, and to make decisions you believe in. But, be aware that your values may change over time, even if right now you can't imagine them doing so. It can be a good idea to repeat this exercise every few years or so, or after big life events, to reaffirm what's most important to you.
To discover more about your personal values, read the article.
Way to go Vinjol03!
April
Since I started doing more planning at work and setting small goals, my self doubt is reducing. I hope to take an hour at the end of a working day to recap on what needs doing - it is challenging and some times I do feel lost and self doubt rates it ugly head (my hammer is by my bed/desk to bas it down with
It was interesting reading how low esteem can at times present it self I.e procrastination, self doubt, need for reassurance to affirm ones self worth.
In addition to what Dianna said, I just wanted to highlight the importance of looking within yourself for acknowledgement and approval, rather than seeking it from others.
Many of us do want that outside approval, yet, at the end of the day, we have absolutely no control of whether the other person approves/disapproves, whether they agree/disagree, or whether they are going to speak up and give approval or not.
The critical thing is focusing on yourself and finding your own 'measures of success'. Rather than waiting for others to say 'good job' or 'well done', just know within yourself that you have done a good job and that you have done well.
The link Dianna mentioned, as well as the related links to confidence, will give you some ideas to start working with. Remember, it's baby steps, one step at a time towards developing new habits!
Let us know if you have any questions or how we can help support you as you take those steps.
Midgie