Developing Charisma

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Charisma is often associated with the stars, but you can have it, too.

Have you ever worked with a very charismatic leader? If so, then it's likely that almost everyone in the organization liked, trusted and admired this person.

People listened when they talked, colleagues supported their ideas, and talented people wanted to join their team. In short, everyone wanted to be around this person!

Charisma is something that many people believe you're born with. However, this isn't the case – you can become more charismatic, and we'll explore how you can develop charisma in this article.

Defining Charisma

Charisma is a collection of traits and behaviors that make you appeal to other people. The word comes from the Greek word "charis," which means "grace" or "gift."

A person who is charismatic is exceptionally engaging, likable, trustworthy, and, in many cases, a bit "magical." Larger-than-life personalities like Marilyn Monroe, Martin Luther King, Jr, Oprah Winfrey, and Sir Richard Branson have all been known for their charismatic personalities.

People with charisma are assertive, confident, inspiring, and warm. They make a point of listening to others, and they have an innate grace that often stops people in their tracks.

As such, it's great to be charismatic in business, even if you're not in a leadership role. When you have charisma, people want to work with you. They're drawn to your ideas, they trust your opinion, and they're more likely to be influenced by you.

Charisma and Power

Charisma is a form of "referent power," which social psychologists John French and Bertram Raven identified as one of the five bases of power   . Referent power is influence that you have because other people like and respect you.

With that in mind, remember that charisma can be misused. Don't use it to manipulate others into doing something that is against their interests.

Developing Charisma

Charisma is nothing more than a set of traits and behaviors that, when put together, turn you into a magnetic, engaging personality. Plenty of research shows that you can learn and perfect these traits. [1]

For instance, studies have shown that leaders who are willing to endure hardship are seen as more charismatic by their teams. [2] And people who have a positive outlook are more likely to have charisma. [3]

It takes time and effort to develop charisma, so pay attention to several areas. Look at developing charisma as a personal journey, and focus on one area at a time.

Let's look at these areas in turn:

Body Language and Presence

Body Language   and "presence" are important aspects of charisma. Without saying a word, the right body language can transmit strength, warmth, and likability.

Start by standing up straight, with your shoulders back and your head up. Good posture not only makes you look confident and in control, but it also makes you feel this way!

Charismatic people tend to be very positive, so do your best to maintain a positive outlook   .

Presence is a bit different from body language: this has to do with the quality of your attention. When you have presence, you devote all of your attention to the person you're with, and you don't let your mind wander to something else. You give yourself, and your attention, solely to that person.

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To develop presence   , start by learning Active Listening   skills. When someone is speaking, make sure that you devote your full attention to what the person is saying, and don't worry about what you're going to say next. Do your best to stay in the moment and stay aware. You may be surprised by the impact this has on your relationships!

Helping Others to Feel Good

Charismatic people make others feel great. Instead of focusing on their own success, they spend time and energy trying to lift others up. By helping the people around them, they create an environment of positive energy that others are naturally drawn to.

You can do this by giving help   and expertise whenever people need it. Be humble about your achievements and give people sincere praise   and gratitude when they do something good.

You can also help others by becoming a mentor   , by coaching   less-experienced team members, and by practicing random acts of kindness like bringing in muffins to the office or making coffee for a busy colleague.

A genuine smile, when appropriate, can also help to make people feel good.

Emotional Intelligence and Empathy

There's a strong link between high Emotional Intelligence   and charisma. [4] Leaders with high emotional intelligence are aware of their own emotions, as well as of the emotions of those around them. This awareness allows them to stay cool under pressure and give people what they need emotionally.

Empathy   is an important part of this. When you're able to understand other people's perspectives, wants and needs, you open the door for greater understanding and connection.

Develop empathy and emotional intelligence by keeping your emotions under control, especially when you're tired or stressed. Also, pay attention to others. By picking up on their body language and what they say, you'll be able to identify what they want and need, and then take the appropriate action.

Self-Confidence and Assertiveness

Charismatic people have confidence, and they know how to be assertive.

Start by Building Self-Confidence   . You can do this by using your strengths more at work, by setting and achieving small goals, and by developing the knowledge and skills that you need to do your job effectively. Also, develop your public speaking skills   , so that you can speak clearly and confidently in front of a group.

Assertiveness   is slightly different. When you're assertive, you communicate your wants and needs, while still respecting the wants and needs of other people. When you're assertive, you show personal power, but you use this power with kindness, respect and dignity.

Assertiveness and self-confidence go hand-in-hand. Once you've built your self-confidence, you can work on assertiveness by recognizing your wants and needs in every situation and also by recognizing the wants and needs of others. Stand up appropriately for what you need, but do this respectfully.